The Top 60 Ways To Show Kids You Care
- Notice them and acknowledge them
- Smile a lot when around them.
- Kneel down, squat, or sit at their eye
level when talking to young children.
- Acknowledge their efforts more then their
- Seek them out but also allow them space.
- Always remember and make a big deal about
their birthdays and special days (don’t need
to spend a lot, just make a big deal about it
to let them know they are important).
- Ask them about and talk to them about
themselves and what they like.
- Look in their eyes when you talk to them
but allow them to look away if the subject is
- Listen to them and repeat back to them
what you heard them say.
- Play with them and let them lead the play
frequently, choose the toys, choose the games
- Read aloud together.
- Laugh, giggle, dance, sing act goofy
together as much as possible.
- Be nice and model good kind behaviors.
- Say “yes” a lot. In fact, for each “no”
find two or three things that are “yes”.
- Word things in positive terms (“Billy, use
walking feet” instead of “don’t run Billy”)
- Tell them their feelings are okay.
- Set boundaries that keep them safe.
- Allow the feelings but redirect any
dangerous, destructive, or abusive actions.
- Be honest, but keep adult information with
- Listen to their stories they are usually
telling you a little something about
- Hug them frequently but don’t force a hug
if they don’t want one.
- Forget your worries sometimes and
concentrate only on them.
- Notice when they're acting differently or
seem to be having a lot of problems.
- Seek professional help when they need it.
- Present options when they seek your
counsel (limit options for younger children).
- Play outside together as much as possible.
- Surprise them with good things or fun
ideas every once in a while.
- Stay with them when they're afraid.
- When giving choices try to give two
choices that will both accomplish what needs
to be done. (Billy, we can do your homework
and then watch your show or do your homework
and then go outside, which would you like
- When they act out make sure you have
supplied plenty of other ideas of ways to
behave that still allow them to feel their
- Delight in their discoveries, share their
- Send them a letter or postcard whenever
you get a chance.
- When you have to be away on a trip, call
them a lot and bring them something small when
- Let them over hear you bragging about them
or saying something good about them when they
think you don’t know they are there.
- Find good things about them that are
actually true and let them know often.
- Hide surprises for them to find.
- Give them space when they need it.
- Contribute to their collections.
- Discuss their dreams and nightmares.
- Laugh at their jokes.
- Be relaxed, calm, loving, and nurturing as
much as possible.
- Answer their questions, or even better,
help them answer them.
- Help them do things for themselves when
- Create a tradition with them and keep it.
- Learn what they have to teach.
- Use your ears more than your mouth.
- Make yourself available.
- Show up at their concerts, games, and
- Find a common interest.
- Hold hands during a walk.
- Apologize when you've done something
- Listen to their favorite music with them.
- Keep the promises you make.
- Take lots of pictures of them.
- Display their artwork in your home.
- Thank them when they do nice things for
- Point out what you like about them or
- Clip magazine pictures or articles that
- Ask them to help you do things, ask for
- Adapted from the Healthy Communities