Go to home page.
See a map of this web site.

Collaborative Family Law at The Counseling Corner

Dr. Ernest W. Reilly, LCSW is a Collaboratively Trained Mental Health Professional, a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, a Parent Coordinator, a Licensed Therapist, a Co-Parenting Coach, A Mental Health Neutral, and an expert in working with Collaborative Divorces. Dr. Reilly completed his doctoral dissertation on assisting Divorced Coparents, reducing conflict during divorces, increasing effective communication for coparents, finding creative solutions for divorced coparents, and working collaboratively within the coparenting relationship. Dr. Reilly brings his over twenty years experience in assisting divorced co-parents, children, and families as well as his extensive knowledge in psychological, relational, emotional, cognitive, behavioral, and family systems dynamics to help during the Collaborative Divorce Process. Dr. Reilly can serve on your Collaborative Family Law Team as the neutral mental health professional, and will be responsible for helping to navigate the emotional, psychological, relational, and behavioral issues for you and your team in the interest of both parties, the children and your family.

As a Collaboratively trained therapist and Mental Health Neutral, Dr. Reilly also uses his understanding of childhood developmental issues, healthy co-parenting, expertise in problem solving and finding creative solutions, and how to help co-parents navigate all the difficulties of divorced life, to help co-parents and their families. Dr. Reilly can also help you create an effective, developmentally appropriate Parenting Plan for your children. He has extensive expertise in helping to improve co-parenting communication, assist in managing emotions effectively, regulating and reducing anger, and helping co-parents solve problems collaboratively, reduce conflicts, and create healthier co-parenting situations for their children.

About Collaborative Law

For the last thirty years, the divorce rate in the United States has ranged between 40 and 50 percent(Clark-Stewart & Brentano, 2006; Gaulier, Margerum, Price, & Windell, 2007), and research indicates that the divorce rate is approximately 10% worse for second marriages (Engblom-Deglmann, 2009; Ganong, Coleman, & Weaver, 2002). With this level of marital dissolution, almost half of the children born today will experience the divorce of their parents (Hetherington, Stanley-Hagan, & Anderson, 1989), and because approximately three quarters of those who divorce will remarry (Amato, 2000), many children will experience more than one divorce during their childhood.

Parents who divorce may be legally separated from their former spouses, but they remain tied to one another through their children, thus facing the challenge of coparenting. Extensive research reports that the most destructive part of divorce is the conflict and inter-parental conflict. Finding ways to reduce this conflict and maintain or create healthy coparenting functioning is therefore essential. The Collaborative Divorce is an excellent method at reducing conflict, decreasing stress and harm during the divorce process, and helping children and families cope better and find better solutions during and after the divorce process.

The hurt, anger, and sense of injury experienced after most divorces will often impair or reduce the functioning of the divorcing individuals, their children, and families. The divorce often impacts each individuals parenting, coparenting, professional work, and social functioning. If parents must divorce, research clearly demonstrates that the healthiest thing they can do is to find ways to reduce their conflict and find ways to divorce with the least amount of conflict. Collaborative family law is an excellent approach for utilizing a team approach in order to divorce in the healthiest manner. As a result of the success of Collaborative Divorces they are growing extensively in popularity with couples who wish to reduce their conflict and divorce in the healthiest way possible. Collaborative Divorces are now available in the United States, Canada, England, Ireland, Scotland, and Australia. This service typically combines the use of a team approach to resolving disputes with the goal of decreasing conflict, emotional and relational damage, and preservation of the economic and emotional resources of the divorcing couples.

These collaborative teams typically consist of a collaboratively trained attorney for each client, a collaboratively trained mental health professional, and a financial planner or forensic accountant. The process is negotiated so that all parties agree to proceed without litigation in order to avoid the destructive nature of the court process and do not rely on court-imposed solutions (Deutsch, 2008). The collaborative divorce process is based on a legal agreement to avoid court, to have an open exchange of information, to work collaboratively to meet both parties needs in the most reasonable ways, and recognizing that when children are involved, finding healthy ways to reduce conflict and maintain healthy relationships and responsibilities is essential to the children.

The Collaborative Divorce is done on the family�s schedule, not the court�s schedule, and the whole process is done while avoiding court. Avoiding court and avoiding court ordered mediation, is another way the family is spared stress, turmoil, and much of the typical conflict of a divorce is avoided. In addition, by avoiding court the family�s financial and familial dealings are kept out of court and public records thereby maintaining confidentiality much more effectively than the standard divorce. Imagine never having to step inside a courtroom, having a highly trained team guide you through the process, and having the whole process kept completely confidential. This level of collaboration is very promising (Deutsch, 2008) and can be a great benefit to couples as they seek to reduce conflict and increase cooperation in coparenting. /p>

If you are interested in a Collaborative Divorce simply contact us and we can help assist you through this process. If you have already have an attorney and would like Dr. Reilly to serve on your Collaborative Divorce team please let us and your attorney know. If you would like to discuss this process with Dr. Reilly please contact the Counseling Corner to set up a time to begin the process with Dr. Reilly and we will assist you with the rest.


  About Counseling Corner  |  Services Available   |  About Play Therapy  
  Finding The Right Therapist  |  Child & Adolescent Disorders  |  Parent's Corner  
  Feedback Corner  |  Links to Resources  |  Contact Us  

© 2002, Counseling Corner Inc.
All Rights Reserved